Supporting victims and empowering survivors of domestic violence

“Violence against women continues to persist as one of the systematic and prevalent human rights abuses in the world. It is a threat to all women and obstacle to all our efforts for development, peace and gender equality” Ban Ki Moon

Domestic violence and abuse are used for one purpose; to gain and maintain control over you. Abusive individuals need to feel they are in charge of the relationship; they make decisions for you and expect you to comply.

These decisions are often packaged and disguised as love and affection.
Statistics show that 1:4 women will experience abuse in their lifetime; in the uk, the police receive one call every minute and not every incident is reported. These figures may not reflect ethnic minorities, especially Africans.

If you are a victim of domestic abuse, it is vital that you know it is not your fault, though your abuse will want to convince you it is, by all means.

You are not alone, Speak up and get Help.

signs of domestic abuse

  • Living in constant fear of your spouse/partner
  • Wondering if you are the ‘crazy one’
  • Feeling overwhelmed and helpless
  • Your spouse criticises and humiliates you constantly
  • Have unpredictable temper and mood swing
  • Blames you for his abusive behaviour
  • Trivialises your bruises and emotions
  • Controls who you see, where you go, what you wear and access to money.

the book

Look inwards and draw strength
Learn how domestic violence is tied to culture, society and religion!

Author Mary Akangbe takes readers behind the scenes of middle class domesticity to make this searing report on domestic violence as an entrenched control system that victimises women.